I don't have a particularly long commute to work...on a good day it's 25 minutes, but on a bad day it can stretch towards the hour mark.
There's only really one route I can do and I face a daily battle with the dread that is Traffic Lights. I have to go through 11 sets and in the absence of anything better to do I often find myself repeating the mantra "Please be green, please be green".
I had one of those bad days this week. Now that it's the school holiday I thought I would give myself an extra 5 minutes to drink my tea and watch the news. When I started driving, every traffic light was either red or turning red as I got there. Traffic was stop start, lorries were blocking the flow of traffic, road works had sprung up overnight...I started to get stressed knowing that I would be late and then I listened to a song on the radio.
It was sung by Rumer, accompanied by Jools Holland. In it she sang about ignoring negative things, focus on positive things and to stop worrying about the maybes.
The next traffic light was still on red, but instead of glaring at the light until it turned green I took a moment to look around me. The yellow gorse flowers were a shot of golden colour, I spotted a rabbit feeding on the fresh grass that has sprung up since our rain spell. I watched a little boy walking along the pavement, holding the hand of his Dad, look up to him and break into the biggest grin.
The next set of traffic lights were green and I sent up a little word of thanks.
I ended up being a few minutes late, so were other people, our work still got done in the time we had.
Sometime I think we all need to focus on the moments that things go right and learn from those, rather than spending all our energy being angry or stressed with the bad moments that have already passed.
Accentuate The Positives - Johnny Mercer 1944
You gotta accentuate the positive,
Eliminate the negative,
An latch on
To the affirmative,
Don't mess with Mr In-between
You gotta spread joy up to the maximum,
Bring gloom down to the minimum,
And have faith,
Or pandemonium is
Liable to walk upon the scene!